Friday, December 9, 2016

A Woman Who Dates For Free Dinners

Couple days ago, I was out with my friend Puraman. We went to Kennedy's for a beer and there she was... Olyenka. Whenever we go out she is there, with another man from We both know her, my friend took her out couple months ago and I went out with her too, I paid a steak and we had 4 beers each. My friend wanted to approach the guy who was accompanied her but I stopped him. Let it go. She is not an exception she is a rule of online dating.

I filter my matches by income (and then by height, of course). If he makes under a certain amount, or doesn’t list it at all, I won’t even see his profile, and that’s probably for the best. My suspicion is that very few women haven’t tried this method at least once, but if they haven’t, all the better for them. Their choice to date men of all income brackets is something that deserves a certain amount of respect, and their choices have no bearing on my own. I also expect that men are filtering me by body type, and by the sex appeal of the first picture they see, and it doesn’t offend me in the slightest. 

Olyenka joined, paid $70 for a three months in subscription fees and found men who are willing to take her out on dates and pay for dinner and drinks! She would never allow men to pick her up from her home (because they don’t want them to know where she lives), and she only meet men in public places. She schedules dates every day of the week, rotating from a list of men she is keeping on her phone. She has rules, never to have more than five dates with one guy, so to not end up attached to anyone.

Do you think what Olyenka is doing is unethical or wrong?

Let’s face it, many men on want to meet as many women as possible to get laid with no intention of getting involved in any serious relationship. Yet, no one ever says they are wrong for their true intent in their own quest for sex. And while men use “love” to get a good fuck, what Olyenka is doing is no different: She is merely using the smell of “sex” for free dinners and drinks.

A lot of the men I date, to be fair, are not looking for much themselves. They want to fuck me, sure, but only in the way they just want to fuck something. They often have high-stress jobs and aren’t interested in settling down and dedicating real time to their personal lives for the next few years at least. In any case, the fact that I am looking to be taken out is often not a conflict of interest. Of course, I very rarely have sex with them - and only when I am personally interested in doing so - but they were never expecting to fall in love.

The fact that she is doing it in Kennedys and other Toronto's west end restaurants and bars, using, with the intent of misleading unsuspecting dates is what makes Puraman angry. However, if she had been up front about her intentions then there is absolutely nothing wrong with what she is doing.

While Olyenka is staying emotionally unavailable, there is still a chance that one day she can change her mind about love. Oh bullshit. That will never happen! She is deeply into this shit. It is her financial situation and love for drinks that is making her emotionally unavailable in the first place. But who can blame poor Olyenka?  When you have to worry about paying your next bill, falling in love is the last thing on your mind.

So in conclusion, don't take a woman out to eat on a first date until you can be reasonably certain that she is okay. You will never know that for sure. Sorry, ladies, that's just the way it is. Women who use just lost their first date restaurant privileges, thanks to Olyenka. From now on, the only safe thing to do is take her somewhere free, High Park or maybe Tim Horton's or Starbucks.

If you want to pay for dinner on the first date, because it establishes the fact that you're the man in this relationship, that's the kind of relationship this is going to be. I know this very well. My girlfriends were cheap-fucking-asses. They never paid for anything, not even a single coffee.

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