Thursday, October 4, 2018

Relationships, good life and the most common regrets in this self-projected universe

I don't want to alarm you, but there's a possibility that universe is nothing more than a huge simulation, that you're living inside a gigantic computer, and none of this is real. Your life may be nothing but a computer game.

A team of physicists has provided some of evidences that universe could be just one big projection and as soon as you are not looking, the things simply vanish, they are not there, but the real question is do you want to know about it?

I don't think so.

Who has time? You have no time for such trivial things. The life is pressing you so you go with the flow without ever exploring what it is that you are truly doing. You know there’s something wrong with this world, but you're too lazy to look at it, too polite to complain and too busy to see the obvious...

Today I read an interesting article about Harvard's 75-year study which reveals the secret of living a happy life. It took them 75 fucking years to discover that a good relationship makes the happy life. They study 300 people from early age to present day. They are still studying their life even now in their 90ties. The article is quite interesting but the study itself is just waste of time.

They say value love above all else. Meaningful relationships and connections matter a lot. Happiness is love. Wow, 75 years of study to find out this.

Life gets shittier as you grow up, you laugh less, complain more.

Growing up old does not mean growing up by understanding. The truth is simple... but terrifying. You live with the mistaken identity. You create your own reality, but you lack the energy to understand that. You're too busy thinking how wonderful you are, how sensitive, how unique. I have a news for you... You are not unique!

If you notice that as you get older your problems tend to go from bad to worse, it means that the life lessons are not learned.

My mother died in the palliative care in January 2015. I was with her a month earlier and I spend considerable time in that hospital department. The palliative care is the place for dying... I read an article about the last words of the patients there. Those patients in their last days has revealed the most common regrets they have at the end of their lives and they come in this order:

    I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me.
    I wish I hadn't worked so hard.
    I wish I'd had the courage to express my feelings.
    I wish I had stayed in touch with my friends.
    I wish I had let myself be happier.

You are convinced that you're having a terrible life, and that most of the time you're making a fool of yourself. But despite your feelings, your life is actually above average; you live quite good life. There is no need to improve anything in your life just change the attitude. The life is your show. It is your universe.

Who else knows about your thoughts and feelings? There is no one else there, just you, and nothing is being withheld from you. You are completely on your own. There is no place for worries. Everything is available to you. No one else has anything you need. No one else can lead you, pull you, push you or carry you. No relationship is necessary for your happiness. You're always on your own.

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference.

It's very rare that someone gets all love, care and freedom when they are young. Most of you are emotionally damaged adults because of your childhood experiences. So the first task of life is to figure out who you are and what you want, independent of others.

The second task is to realize that you have the power to make it happen. Universe (hologram or not) have no choice but to give you what you want. You must be independent, know what you want and do what you want, enjoying it while it lasts.

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