Friday, October 27, 2017

Have courage to live a life true to yourself


If things last forever, what would make them special?

You’ll fall in love, you’ll fall out of love, or lose the ones you love. You live and you’ll die. So many people before you have lived, loved, succeeded, failed, and died. You aren’t any different. Nothing lasts forever! Rather than being depressed by this fact, feel grateful, excited, and uplifted.

My mother died in the palliative care in January 2015. I was with her a month earlier and I spend considerable time in that hospital department. The palliative care is the last place, it is the place for dying.

I read an article about the last words of the patients on the palliative care. Those patients in their last days have revealed the most common regrets they have at the end of their lives.

I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me – dying patients

When you realize that your life is almost over and look back clearly on it you will understand that all was up to you and your courage to live the life true to yourself, not the life others expected of you. In other words, you will see that your dreams have gone unfulfilled. You'll realize that you've wasted your life.

I am 52 and I had my fair share of shitty experiences, I look back and realize I only have myself to blame. Yes, I am a kind of taking a responsibility for being an idiot. I was living my life but I didn't feel it as my dream... I have changed that.

Almost every one of you is convinced that you're having a terrible life and that most of the time you're making a fool of yourself. That's true but despite your feelings, your life is actually above average; you live quite good life.

There is no need to improve anything in your life. Emotionally, this is a blow to the stomach for you. But think for yourself and figure out what is true. The life is your show. It is your universe.

Who else knows about your thoughts and feelings? There is no one else there, just you, and nothing is being withheld from you. You are completely on your own. There is no place for worries. Everything is available to you. No one else has anything you need. No one else can lead you, pull you, push you or carry you. No one else is necessary to your success. You keep fucking yourself over. If you understand that, you will understand that it is the best news you could possibly receive.

I wish I hadn't worked so hard – dying patients

On the dead-bed, every male has regret about working too much. They wished that they hadn't worked so hard. They had spent so much of their life at work, and for what? Bigger car or house?

Move your attention from the work. Turn the attention of your mind to yourself. How do you know you exist? If you don’t do this then you will continue to work like a dog believing in the non-existent universe until you die.

Change your attitude! The real wisdom is related to recognition of what is true, everlasting, and what is not. When you truly understand, you will finally realize that your work is necessary only for your daily needs and nothing else. Pay more attention to your needs...

I wish I had let myself be happier – dying patients

People don't realize until the end that happiness is a choice. They live their life according to patterns and habits. They follow comfort of familiarity. Deep within, they long to laugh more and have craziness in their life.

Why are you seeking special circumstances for happiness? Happiness is momentary sensations of forgetfulness of problems, which of course do not disappear but that forgetfulness gives the sense of being happy.

You move from one thought to another, from one cage to another, from one pose to another, hoping to find happiness, not only happiness in the relationship with people but also the happiness as a resting place where your mind will never be disturbed, where you cease to be tortured by your thoughts.

I may put this in different words, I may use different jargon, but that is what you want - a place where your mind can rest, where it is not tortured by its own activities, where there is no sorrow, but I will stop here...

May you find your happiness!!!

Find what gives your life meaning and what gives you a sense of purpose. Find out what you want. Start from there and happiness is easily found; remember the very search for happiness is itself the main reason for unhappiness.

Good luck. 😊


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