Thursday, August 31, 2017

The Greatest Show Not On Television... Is Back

My new dating experience, dedicated to nobody...

I was on the first date after more than a year., two emails and there we were, face to face... She is a gorgeous blond, petite and thin, 45 years old, Canadian Italian.

She has style. Under black long sweater she wore a tight black skirt, high heels, a white blouse, and a gold and black scarf around her neck. She has a cute small nose, marvelous breasts and fine ass.

She told me she is not a desperate to find someone. She sounded cheesy and at the same time, in a way, beautiful. We talked without touching. We were at Queens Pasta and I told her that I live nearby but she pretended not to hear that. I suggested that after dinner we go to Swan, a nearby bar and she agreed.

I noticed that she does not eat much. After two hours of quite pleasant and vibrant conversation, waiter packed her food, I paid the bill and we walked to her car in order to leave the food container... and then... I kissed her, she returned the kiss. She told me that she likes me. In the Swan we were like two teenagers, holding hands and kissing.

I called her to my place but she did not accept it. She drove me to the entry of my condo and we parted with smiles. I like her a lot and there is a chance that I have found a girlfriend...

I have seen her last night again. She came to my place and we have a lot of fun. We went to Open Cork for a dinner, the sea platter for two was a way too much for us. The food was great and the wine was delicious too. After dinner we went back to my place and she stayed well after midnight. We scheduled next date for this weekend.

I'm bouncing back. It is a challenge of meeting someone new and a new date can be downright daunting but I was lucky. I do think that the Bumble app is the best online dating app because it match up people that already like each other. The Bumble account is connected to Facebook account and there is no so much lies (except if a person lies on Facebook) about age and recent photos.

For a long time I was in a toxic relationship and although I tried to escape several times I didn’t quite realize how much I was emotionally abused. In past relationship everything was about my former girlfriend, what she does, what she thinks and everything was a kind of hope that things will change. There was also a comfort in things that are the same. There’s a comfort in being with someone who knows me so deeply.

It takes a lot of courage to walk away from such relationship. But now, when I have met a different girl I can fully realize how negatively this past relationship has affected me. Now, I don’t trust anyone. Even myself. I became paranoid as fuck. I don’t believe people can be honest or mean what they say.

I wonder how I tolerated past relationship for so long. In this new relationship I don't expect much. I simply don’t believe good girls exist because for so long I looked for the wrong qualities and I accepted them as normal. Time with this new girl will tell am I right or wrong... we have started and things look good for now although I need to change and adapt to the new situation.

Wednesday, August 30, 2017

Yoga Teacher Accidentally Ate Apple Worm

TORONTO, August 30, 2017, (News) - For Judith (37) from Toronto, a yoga teacher and a long-standing vegan, afternoon meal turned into a true nightmare, when she realized that she had eaten a worm from the apple, thinking she was eating a ripe apple.

She is now concerned of her health, since she imported 3 grams of animal protein into her stomach.

- At approximately 10:30 this morning, we received the phone call from Judith with a request to urgently come to her place and perform detoxification, known as gastric lavage, because of suspicion of poisoning - said Dr. Kevin Castellani from Toronto's ambulance service.

The mobile team of the St. Joseph Hospital hospitalized Judith, who admitted that her homeostasis was seriously compromised, and that the consequences for her organism were unimaginable if these proteins of animal origin reached the bloodstream. Shortly thereafter, Judith was declined the hospital service and she was escorted out of the hospital without the required therapy. Judith  was outrageous. Her yoga students have a lot of understanding for her dissatisfaction.

- Shame they did not provide her with the required treatment. Judith is a good yoga teacher and a very responsible person in her own right. She takes strict care of her diet. Whatever she eats, she checks three times what is served. In Toronto yoga community, there is probably not a single person who is not familiar with Judith's nutrition, says one of her yoga student.

We looked at the matter ourselves and our research shows that the concentration of worms in apples and other fruits and vegetables, according to certain vegan standards, should not exceed 3 mg, which is one fifth of an average worm. Judith has eaten the whole worm!!! She was not in a position to make statements for the media.

The NGO "Vegga Eatt", which promotes veganism and animal protection, sharply condemned this barbaric act of killing a worm. A lawsuit against Judith  has been filed for the murder in negligence, before the International Court of Justice in Strasbourg.

In conclusion... don't eat worms! You are what you eat. Forgo the junk food and go for clean, healthy foods, particularly fruits and vegetables as well as whole grains and lean protein. Proper nutrition is a must for a long, healthy, stress-free life.

Tuesday, August 29, 2017

Back To Online Dating

I'm free again. I'm single and able to do whatever I want with my time and money. The first thing I did this morning is to download Bumble online dating app. I enrolled for the Bumble boost for a month (worth $30) so I'm able to see who likes my profile.

Bumble is like Tinder, both men and women swipe, but only women can start the conversation, and they only have 24 hours from the time they match to start chatting before the connection disappears forever. I like that.

You download the app, set up your profile, and start swiping. If you mess up and accidentally swipe left when you mean to swipe right — swipe right meaning that you're interested in someone — you can shake your phone to undo it. The user interface isn't difficult, and it's easy to use.

During a day I received 3 likes from the very attractive women. I matched them, meaning I have accepted their likes and now I am waiting for their contact. I would like to go on date this wekend...

So what do you think? If you want to start the online dating, you register on dating site, upload your best looking photos, fill out gibberish as your profile, mention something boring about the things you love, list some books you like, list sports you do and then sit back, kick your feet up, and wait for the messages to roll in. Right?

You expect your inbox filled with messages, notes of the likes from women who find your taste “refreshing”. You will chose the best looking one and invite her for a drink or dinner. After she said "yes", you put on some nice shirt, plunge out into the unknown, meet a stranger, and after an hour of slightly pleasant conversation, you grab the check. You ended up at your place or you part away with kisses, and you set up next date probably in a three or four days. You are happy online dater.

But, that is in the perfect world, the reality of online dating is something else.

The online dating is a game. Wake up and be realistic if you didn't know this. You've got to keep on playing, till you hit the right combination, the winning one, and you end up on a perfect date with the woman of your dreams.

It seems like a no brainer, but you as you are now is the one of the biggest setbacks you have to overcome. Playing this Game involves personal changes.

Speak with your friends, especially females and ask them what they think how can you change your appearance to look more attractive. They will tell you. Looking yourself through others eyes is good in this case. Write down what they say. Is it changing the clothes, or hairstyle or whatever.

Do it. Follow up with them again. The point is to see yourself realistically like others see you.

Your Profile

Are you clear what do you want. What kind of person you want to attract? What is your relationship goal? Write honestly. Be yourself, be confident, be realistic and open-minded. Write your preferences but keep your expectations grounded in reality.

Write your profile in an easy manner... do not complicate things. Don't lie. Be simple to the point.

You need to remember you are only going to be concerned about 5% of the women on the dating site. The other 95% are there to weed through, sort out, and throw away (delete the messages from them).

Know what do you want, keeping focus on your goal.

Choose Photos Strategically

In online dating, the pictures are the first line of connection. Think about the message you're sending. Your pics dictate how potential dates view you, so be proactive and decide what image you want to project.

If you aren't sure how your profile and photos looks/reads, ask a friend to proof read it.

Your First Message

Writing the first message is tricky and writing a lot is usually a sign of a deep lack of confidence. Don't feel that she isn't interested in what you're saying, dude, she is on the site for the reason. Start as a friend and equal.

Read her profile. Be funny but avoid being cheesy - aim your joke at something you both have in common - perhaps something in her profile - maybe a movie?

Look through her interests, favorite foods, her job and try and spark up conversation based on what she's into.

Avoid suggesting a face-to-face meeting in your first message, instead stick to something you've seen on their profile - do you share the same music taste? Has she seen your favorite band live?

a) prove you read her profile,
b) start a conversation about stuff you share in common,
c) reinforces further that you're interested what she thinks, not just her look, by asking more about the stuff she's interested in.

Never ever compliment her looks. Those messages are shallow and meaningless. End the message skillfully... I would like to read your palm and tell you what future holds for you, is great example.

Ask one or two questions. Some guys make the mistake of firing off a long list of questions about a whole range of topics. This is too much for her.

Stick with one or two low-pressure questions that make it easy for her to respond quickly because she'e interested.

Her profile is one big list of conversation topics.  Just pick one detail you think is cool, or you're genuinely curious about, and ask her about it.

Analyse her profile and photos

You have seen her and you think you’re going to meet her as a thin, blonde, beautiful woman, well don't be so sure! More than half of women lie about their looks. Simply they post old photographs on their profile. Yes, surprise surprise!

It is the online dating reality, a shameful dishonesty from people looking to find their true match.

Some women are lying about their looks. Do they really think that when they finally encounter you in person, that it won’t be immediately obvious that they are four years older, two cup sizes smaller, couple inches shorter and about 20 pounds heavier than they show on her picture?

Perhaps they assume their personalities will magically make up for the fact they do not look anything like the picture that was posted online.

Before you decide to contact her analyse her profile and carefully look at her photos. Photos can tell you a lot about your potential date.

 - No photo or a face covered with hair are a sign that she probably has something to hide, or else she is not really serious about dating, she only wants to go for free drinks and dinners.

 - If she has only one photo with face only, you should be very careful and ask for full figure photo before the actual date.

 - If she has more than 10 photos, it means she is completely self-absorbed.

 - All her photos are cut out from photos with another people? Well, that’s a huge red flag on so many levels. Such photos are lies, lies and lies.

 - Is there someone or something else in her photo? It’s good to have outside interests. But if her dog, friends, car or even her kids are in her photos, it may tell you a little about where you’ll stand in the scheme of things.

Anyway, by reading her profile you can feel that something is not right. Please understand, everything you have thought of being wrong, it will be wrong. The picture lie you can spot in the first few seconds of seeing her, the other lies you will notice later on... so good luck to you... and to me.

Monday, August 28, 2017

I have to walk away

In my opinion, most relationships last a way too long, a way beyond its expiration day.

Fear of being alone, of starting all over again, fear of hurting and of change can keep you stuck in a place you don't want to be. Many of you end up wasting months, years in a destructive relationship with a person you want to be with but, for whatever reason, is sucking the life out of you.

Here’s the thing, no relationship is perfect but my relationship, recently, became a kind of desperation. I feel I am constantly chasing my girlfriend down, apologizing, trying to understand her situation and trying to “fix” myself... so in my relationship, something is seriously out of whack.

Our future does not look bright. It looks more like a long, dark tunnel from where I will never emerge as her man. She will keep me hidden for simply reason that I am a Serbian. I feel that we are just like the ocean waves, meeting then retreating, never fully embracing the fullness of the intimacy that I crave for.

Every relationship has its ups and downs, and some enjoying the rollercoaster but when I'm waiting for her free time, feeling trapped and disappointed, and miserable, I remember that the only thing really keeping me in chains is my own decision to stay in them. And that's over. I want out.

I have to walk away from her, she may protest and say, “I thought we were fine.” If I don’t do this, one day she will walk away from me. I know that she doesn’t know what I’m talking about, this is the way she has always loved me.

I’m not the one for you dear, I know it deep down so I’m walking away...