Thursday, February 7, 2019

Sex, it is disgusting... like animals


It's now very common to hear people say, "I'm rather offended by that." As if that gives them certain rights. It's actually nothing more... then a whine. "I find that offensive." It has no meaning; it has no purpose; it has no reason to be respected as a phrase. "I am offended by that." Well, so fucking what. - Stephen Fry

I really do not care if you're going to be offended by this post or not. All the chances are that you associate life with images of perfection. Like... perfect happiness in a perfect family with a plenty of sunshine and vegetables, with a perfect body doing even more perfect yoga, and meditating in perfect green forest pursuing a wisdom to save the rest of humanity.

Having such images in your head blinds you from obvious truth, why do not say the reality.  In any given year, 1 in 5 Canadians experiences a mental health problem. So called the episode or simply said ...breakdown. By the time Canadians reach 40 years of age, 1 in 2 has, or have had, a mental illness. The terms "mental illness" refer to depression, anxiety, delusions... general dissatisfaction and disappointment.

Did you know that only 25% of women are able to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse?

According to long-term studies, 50% of women have the orgasm once in a month, 20% once in a year, and 5% never have orgasms.

Can you imagine? 3 of 4 women can’t feel complete sexual pleasure and there is at least 1 of 4 who has never experienced an orgasm – even after decades of having sex.

No wonder that so many women over 40 have lost their desire for sex, have been emotionally abused and are fearful, or think that there is something wrong with them because they don’t feel the pleasure that they hear other women talk about.


The problem of orgasm is just a tip of the iceberg of modern living. I blame the orgasm problem to the fact that they take the life way too seriously.

Every day women are faced with traps that encourage them to take life seriously. They are faced with all kinds of frustrations, turning everyday situations into problems, constantly on the lookout for shit to complain about and worrying about a bunch of things that simply do not matter.

Kids, spouse, relatives, church, workplace... They are very sensitive, they get offended by rain, by look, gesture, words... especially words. "I am feeling offended" is an epidemic spreading across the western world and this problem of sexuality is the consequence.

According to my own observation, nearly 70% of women of age 40 and up suffer from lost of sexual desire. The sex drive usually decline after the birth of the child, somewhere in late 30ties.

"I just became less and less interested in sex," says 42 years old Lisa mother of two. "Eventually, it wasn't on the agenda at all. Not that I wasn't interested in the idea - but it just didn't do anything for me. My answer was to throw myself wholeheartedly into my business and everything else, so I wouldn't think about the problem."

When a woman loses interest in sex, the impact on her partner can be serious.

"There is no question that this is causing depression and a whole host of headaches, pains and other apparently unconnected physical problems," says Mike Perring, a GP and sexual psychotherapist. "Good sex is part of general well-being for most people."

To simplify things, most of the women over 40 just don't like sex. Back in May 2016 I had conversation on match.com with a nice looking 40-something lady...


Well, we will never find out why she lost desire for sex. The sexual intercourse, sexual desire and in the end the satisfaction... for her is disgusting act, like animals. Sexual thoughts, erotic fantasies, and daydreams are not on her agenda.

Not anymore - Guy gets her flowers, girl gives him head! As a teenager said...  "I'm sorry, but I'm really sick of this stupid stereotype. Don't get me wrong, I love pleasing my man with some BJ, but I don't fucking want flowers."

The grand cosmic joke is that there is nowhere to go and nothing to do. Women fool themselves for waiting for something. The life that they're having is always at this moment and this moment is all there is. But women after 40, do wait for flowers.




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