I can’t stand married people


There is something I wanted to write for quite some time. I don't have a single friend who is married. All my friends, males or females are divorced. I know a lot of married people but they simply cut me off from friendship. They are not calling me for their barbecues, kid's birthdays and other family gatherings because they know what I think about them.

You see, I do like married people but I can’t stand them — I can’t stand their shitty and false happiness.

In my experience, I have learned that the marriage, as an institution of family life, doesn’t work.

Married people are trying a lot of things, but still they can’t understand how to make their marriage work. Things are going from bad to worse, so by the 40 they are facing real possibility of divorce. So, they go on Google search looking for marriage advice. This is good because they are seeing the problem, and admitting that there is a problem is halfway solving it. Now, I want to give them a very straight advice for their troubled marriage.

Get divorce as soon as possible, you will save time, energy and money.

Now, lets go from the beginning...

You meet someone, get in love, you start living with a partner. Your family is demanding a wedding and lots of babies, so you do it.

According to wedding toasts, romantic movies, love songs, and various religious texts, the marriage is meant to last forever. Can you imagine? Nothing less but forever. And that is a long, long time. The expectation is high but actually living out that promise is quite another thing.

I can't stand married people because they pretend that lead a happy, meaningful life.

Even the happiest, healthiest marriages have a great amount of bullshit. On the surface all is polished and looking nice but the deep inside reality is that one of the spouse is already boiling an invisible, toxic hate that leads to the ugly but unavoidable loss of passion.

Women in marriage, behind their kitchen sink, feel perpetually bored and frustrated. The lack of compassion and kindness from a husband is so obvious.

On other hand, the husband's anger tends to be centered not in frustration over tasks and responsibilities, but in a longing for love, fun, meaning, and a desire for a deeper connection with wife.

Married men feel emotionally neglected by their partners, they are left craving the interest, attention, and affection they see their wives lavishing on their children. They miss the easy, fun passion their relationship once held.

I can't stand married people because they have no courage to face reality. 

Not seeing the obvious, they end up sleeping in different beds, having different schedules, they stop discussing their inner lives and simply they no longer look to each other for much of anything anymore.

For me, the sex is the main cornerstone of a good relationship. Of course, the married people have stopped having sex multiple times a day, that is unimaginable to them. They're both physically and mentally stressed for sex and it goes on days, months or even years without it.

It is known truth that sexual attraction is significantly diminished, the day you sign on that marriage certificate, just like depreciation of the car's value in the moment of buying it.

Married people try to replace sex with intimacy, this how they call it. However it is called, it has no real value. The intimacy in a marriage starts with two couples living together as if they were roommates and ends up in divorce filled with anger and resentment.



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