Monday, December 30, 2019

New Year's Message

Since I posted that I am shutting down I received four emails from people asking me not to do that. They like my writings and I they say I am giving them inspiration for their practice. So I decided to keep the blog up and running and I introduced a new blog layout for 2020. I declare it, 2020 to be the year of OBSERVATION. 2020 - a clear vision.

I have disconnected Facebook likes for my blog, so you do not need to like or unlike my blog anymore. Also I have added commenting so anyone with Google account can comment. Unfortunately, comments are available only for new posts.

For all those new readers that recently started to read my blog... Welcome!!! I write here about  awakening, yoga and my daily life. I face a great dilemma... why does our life taste like chicken? I'm curious, did love and hate evolve independently or did they both inherit chicken-less from a common ancestor?

I am not saying that I know something. I know nothing. I don’t have any answer to give you. I write truth as I see it, with bad grammar. Take it as that. But I must tell you, we are all bound by our own concepts and beliefs.

There is no right or wrong, it is not important, really, by time, we will see that we are wrong about everything. And then we will discover that our life taste like chicken because we believe it is true.

Have you noticed my efforts here?

I write articles about living life by being awake with special attention on the beauty of being content with what you have and who you really are. Sometimes I go off the topic and write like a nihilist but that is not really what I want to convey.

I’m definitely a goal oriented person — I always have goals, whether that’s writing a better post, doing yoga, improving my health, getting up early, losing weight, or one of a dozen other goals I’m having in the last couple of months.

I enjoy my life and I am content with what I have — but I know that without improvement, no matter how happy I am, the things will eventually go downhill. If I don’t fight and strive for better, well, I have given up on life.

You choose whether you are happy or unhappy.

If you’re unhappy with your life right now, I will say that it’s because you’ve chosen to be unhappy. It sounds harsh, but it’s completely true. Pardon me, you are reading my blog, so you're neither homeless nor clinically depressed nor the one who undergone terrible tragedies or abuse in your past. You're normal human being so this applies to you.

I hear you, your life is crap, and of course, you're going to be unhappy. Your job isn’t going well, your relationships aren’t going well, your finances are very bad, you're overweight, your life is a mess.

But listen to this... it’s proven that it’s not the conditions that make you unhappy, but your choice of thoughts, your attitude.

When you're unhappy, you focus on all the bad things in your life. Not only that, but you continually think about how bad things are, you complain, and you ask, “Why me?” You walk on the verge of inaction and eventually depression. You become grumpy and cynic. That, in turn, only made the situation worse. It certainly does not help you.

I am not saying focus on only good things in your life and have positive thoughts. I don't say that! Because while you have problems at your work and with your relationships and with your finances or health and all that... there is still the opportunity to be content with yourself. How?

Simplify your life.

First, observe your life from the outside, from the position of  a passive observer. Notice your patterns of behavior, you strength and weaknesses. I can not tell you what to do with that observation, that must come from yourself.

In my case, I have to get out of debt. I must be more active, do more yoga, start getting vitamin D, smoke less and have my health under control, I have to slim to 90kg. I have to fix the shocks of my car, I have to repair toilet bowl in my apartment.

Generally, I am happy guy, simply because I chose to be happy. I find satisfaction in what I already have, instead of wishing something else.

I urge you to be satisfied with less, with a simpler life, rather than always wanting more, always acquiring more. Examine why you want more, and solve your issues. At the root of wanting more is not being satisfied with what you have. Stop acquiring, start enjoying!

I don't say I don't want a new stuff. I am not immune to wants, I catch myself now and then to spend enormous amount of money for going out, for vacations and expensive gifts to others. I have never wanted anything for me personally, I have a problem of giving out so much to other people. And that comes from my self-importance, I simply enjoy being important giving money to others.

The reason I get into financial trouble is that I give to others more than I can afford. That's my problem, you have your own problems.

If you are fine with your finances you're most probably not satisfied with your significant other. Your partner doesn't behave how you want him/her to. That’s often at the root of relationship problems.

Being in the relationship isn’t always easy, as you are usually trained to try to change people. Well, you will only find trouble if you try to change your partner. You will never change neither their mind nor their behavior, only you will succeed to make them unhappy, and in turn, your relationship will suffer.

Most of you who read this are not satisfied with the work or job you do. Well, every job wants to make you robot-like creature and you should rebel. You should not stick with a dead-end job and a boss that treats you like shit. If you’re unhappy with your job, change it.

Having a touch of indifference towards job you do will generally help you. Complaining, being grumpy, or negative will not improve your chances to get things better. Actually, that leads to problems at work.

When you find yourself unhappy with something, or with what you don’t have, take a moment and become aware of your surroundings, of yourself as being alive. And I would bet things will change.

I wish you happy New Year. In 2020 please learn to enjoy the simple things!

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