The most important things in life

Watching rich people, you might think that money is what matters most in life but do you wonder why they continue working hard after they made their millions? It appears the money is the lifeblood of every person but I don't think so.

The happiness is not something outside of you, it's your very nature. But in today's sick world, many of you are thrown by social status, materialistic possessions and luxuries – and how can I blame you?

You are constantly being bombarded with the images of perfection. In reality, however, status, designer products and expensive car and house are worth nothing; they won’t make you happy at all, instead they will make you more worried.

An Abstract Purpose

The most important thing in life that many disregard so easily is having a purpose for living. My dear friend, only dead fish goes with the flow.

Without purpose, you won’t have the motivation for anything else, even something so simple such as getting out of bed in the morning. Not having a purpose makes you prone to depression and vulnerable to boredom, anxiety and meaninglessness.

My life purpose is to gain self-realization, to find out who am I, to know the truth. It is an abstract, impossible task, I put in front of me 22 years ago. What is your purpose, what are you trying to achieve in this life? Why are you born?

Having a strong sense of purpose gives you the most positive effect in life. You work hard because you are confident that one day you will make it, you will achieve it – and maybe that day will never come, this purpose is all that you need to follow to feel accomplished in life.

Sound strange, isn't it? Without sense of purpose all else does not have a meaning.

I read so many articles on the net about this theme and everyone, no exception, says the most important thing in life is health. I disagree because the health is not something to be talked about. If you dwell to much on the subject of health you will end up being sick. That's how the universe works. It is so simple, the good health comes from having no stress and being relaxed without self-concerns.

Having no stress depends of your level of awareness - how much are you awake in your life. Do you consider yourself to be an important person? What is your level of self-importance? Well, you answer for yourself, let me continue with the most essential things in life...

Self-Reflection, Introspection of Daily Life

Have you ever observed your own thoughts or questioned your thinking? Do you take time to stop all that mind chatter and sit quietly in order to clarify present moment, to gain some light in the case of a doubt or an uncertainty? If you answered 'yeah, I do that, sometimes', you are no stranger to self-reflection and introspection.

In self-reflection it is more important to ask questions than to get any definite answer. Actually, disregard the answers completely.

If you have a problem in daily life, look at that from the all sides, be aware of the causes and eventual effects, see how you end up in such situation, ask many questions, try to be aware of self while doing that... and then let it go.

Introspection will not tell you what to do because all depends on what you’re looking at. It is all about how you’re looking, and where you’re looking.

You need a daily quiet time where you can observe yourself, it’s not about fixing or changing your thoughts or emotions, but about noticing them.

So, how does this help exactly?

Self-reflection is not an innate, automatic or natural behavior or process that you do. It is a practice, it takes time. It is a life skill and doesn't take much time at all. Very few people do this.

The reflection of life or introspection is bringing attention to yourself to the emotion that comes up, not identifying it as part of self, but simply noticing it and getting curious about it. When there is curiosity, there is no space for judgment. When there is no judgment, acceptance is much easier.

It’s a funny thing. When you are not so tied to your problem clouded by your emotions, the universe opens up a horizon of new possibilities. See things as an observer, remove angry thoughts and intense feelings from your identity, and take a step back. When you can do this, the emotion no longer holds you meaning there is no accumulation of stress.

And this brings us to the last most essential thing for happiness in life...

Being indifferent is the attitude I cultivate. I lead my life without interests and concerns, simply not caring for anything, having no bias, prejudice, or preference, treating all equally.

Whatever comes, let it come, whatever goes, let it go

I was accustomed giving too much attention to something that should not bother me at all.

I am dispassionate about the things that happen around me instead of being caught up in drama and emotions, I enjoy the show setting my attention a way back, in the place before words, sitting and watching... carefree. It's mind over matter, it's awareness over ignorance.

Life is like a movie. Seeing myself and others from a detached, 3rd-person perspective and having no respect for my own assumptions, beliefs and pride, is the goal. From stand point of where "I AM" nothing matters, nothing has any importance in my life.

My major preoccupation now is to get away from this shitty personality. There are several "I"s that exist simultaneously in myself. Knowing this for a fact, I need to be less invested in what's going on. The emotions don't really have a place in my life.

What kind of movie am I in right now?

If I quiet my mind, I see patterns of my behavior, I see a bigger picture. My shitty persona with this name its likes, dislikes and its fears simply does not exist. It is an imagination. And because it does not have existence it takes everything as a big deal. It creates constant thinking fueled by feelings, it creates self appearance...

Nothing is important, it's no big deal. It is all about leaving the assumptions, beliefs, pride and emotions out of my attention. In order to do so, I'm clear and aware with an open mind, unattached to opinions on any matter in this world.

I observe people around me, I understand them and I see the process behind their concepts, their character. Seeing their background I understand why it is they're saying what they're saying and doing what they're doing. But sometimes I don't quite get their words and actions.

Too much of indifference can easily be mistaken for aloofness. That's not the indifference I am going for! I'm open, welcoming, and receptive, it's just that I don't care what happens. I am not in the movie, neither as an actor nor director nor scenographer. I am an observer of the movie.

Physical Activity

Regular physical activity is an important thing you can do for yourself. Being physically active improves your stamina, strengthen bones and muscles, improve your mental health, reduce the risk of chronic disease, improve your ability to do everyday activities... and many other things.

There are so many articles and videos about importance of daily physical activities but these are only words... you have to actually do it.

I do regular ashtanga yoga half primary practice. It is not easy, it is hard, long and boring practice, 50 minutes but if I don't do it, I feel my day is not complete.

So, my friend, take whatever you like, yoga, gym cardio or weight lifting, running, cycling... swimming, walking, whatever will do but just do it.

That's it.