A special post today on my blog. An open letter to my generation, so
called Generation X that is sandwiched between the Baby Boomers and the
Millennials.
To us, born between 1965 and 1970...
My dear friends, we are old! The United Nations, considers old age to be 60
and over. Congratulation. It is official. We made it so far. 💓 Now,
the time has come to stand aside and observe.
We may see that our life was just like a cartoon, and we were everything,
from a Tasmanian devil who can spin into a twister to a rabbit who can noisy
quarrel with a hunter.
But most of the time we have resembled a figure of Wile E. Coyote - the calamitous figure who has been desperately trying and spectacularly failing to catch his desire. Just like poor Wile we see that our life wasn't what we expected.
On an infinite sense of presence, our emotions, feelings and thoughts came
and led as though the life's labyrinths. That was our cartoon,
just bunch of false things.
What did we really wanted?
Happiness! I think that is what we wanted. But here lies the catch. Seeking
happiness was a problem. The running was a problem. For us as we were, the
happiness was not an original thing, it was secondary, a byproduct of
something else. I am afraid that we just wanted satisfaction and
consequently our happiness depended entirely on our imagination. The
imagination was a big problem.
It’s never too late to be whoever we wanted to be. We can simply change our
point of view, whenever we want. We can change or stay the same, it is our
life. We can make the best or the worst of it. I wish we make the best of
it.
We lost ourselves in our marriage, in our kids, work, going after senseless
careers. Instead of living the life as it comes we were constantly running
to suit others, desperately trying to maintain a good outlook of what others
would think of us.
The others aren’t at fault. Everything that is in front of us is there
because we, and we alone, put it there. How could we possibly expect anyone
to value ourselves when they are confused, unconscious and distorted mess,
just like we are.
We were living for other people and we're doing a pretty bad job of it. If
we want to change, first we have to see this and in doing so, we need to
figure out how to change. It will not happen overnight. It will take us
couple years to get rid of false ideas. And the key is to be aware.
We were living a hilarious cartoon
Mother, father, wife, lover, boss, coworker, friend... we've seen that we could be whoever and whatever we chose to be. We played different roles in life and now our play is calming down, we are still at the stage but now we are wearing old-man costumes.
After all those roles we might conclude that WE ARE NOTHING. It is liberating and refreshing and it's simply the best and most loving thing we can ever do for ourselves.
Recently, I read an article about the last words of the patients on the
palliative care.
Those patients in their last days has revealed the most common regrets they
have at the end of their lives.
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life
others expected of me – dying patients
Almost everyone of us is convinced that we're having a terrible life, and
that most of the time we're making a fool of ourselves. That's true but
despite our feelings, our life is actually above average; we live quite good
life.
There is no need to improve anything in our life. Emotionally, this is like
a blow to the stomach for us. But think for second and figure out what is
true. The life is our show. It is our universe.
Who else knows about our thoughts and feelings? There is no one else there,
just us, and nothing is being withheld from us. We are completely on our
own.
There is no place for worries. Everything is available to us. No one else
has anything we need. No one else can lead us, pull us, push us or carry us.
No one else is necessary to our success. We keep fucking ourselves over. If
we understand this, we will understand that it is the best news we could
possibly receive.
I wish I hadn't worked so hard –
dying patients
Our mind willfully accepts every information from newspapers without
doubting anything. We feel that work is most important thing in our life, we
don't think about the universe and our place in it, we imagine we are true
and therefore we naturally feel self important.
We've never given any thought to who we really are because our mind was ever
busy solving work problems and counting money.
I wish that I had let myself be happier – dying patients
Few people realize that happiness is a choice. The dreaming life is lived
according to patterns and habits. It is only followed comfort of
familiarity. Deep within, everyone long to laugh more and have more
craziness in their life.
We move from one role to another, from one cage to another, from one pose to
another, hoping to find happiness, not only happiness in relationship with
people, but also the happiness as a resting place where our mind will never
be disturbed, where we cease to be tortured by our thoughts.
I may put this in different words, I may use different jargon, but that is
what we want - a place where our mind can rest, where it is not tortured by
its own activities, where there is no sorrows.
May you find your happiness!!!
We don't have too much time left to find what gives our life meaning and
what gives us a sense of purpose and do what we really want. Start from
today.. ask yourself What do you really want?
As for me, I have changed in a way of not going after something new, but
rather enjoying what I have without the filters of my wishful beliefs and grandiose
desires. My constant search for fulfillment through external achievements,
relationships, or possessions diminished. A deep recognition have raised that
nothing is lacking, and life is complete as it is.
Thoughts and
emotions are still here, but I see them as transient phenomena rather than
defining who I am. There’s a detachment from the need to defend, assert, or
cling to myself as something.
My mind’s habit of dwelling on the past or anticipating the future
significantly have reduced. Life feels more vivid, immediate, and alive as
awareness rests naturally in the present moment.
Challenges, conflicts, and hardships didn’t disappear, but the way I am
experiencing them. I do not see them as threats to my being. An unshakable
stillness or peace remains in the background of my mind, even in the midst of
external turbulence.
My relationships become freer from my expectations and neediness. There’s a humor, playfulness, and spontaneity often
emerge because the seriousness of the my concerns diminished.
My actions become more aligned with the flow of life, rather than being driven
by fear, desire, or societal conditioning.
My dear friends of 1965, be aware, be present, conscious human beings
I discovered that when we are in the present moment, we are far less likely to
keep tripping up. Although we do wrong tings, we can rectifying things sooner
and understand the reasons behind mistakes. We will always make mistakes,
regardless of how much we've known because of simple reason of our
forgetfulness of who we really are.
Living unconsciously as in a dream we have attracted all kinds of wrong knowledge into our mind. We're not unique, different, something, WE ARE NOTHING. We need to finally enjoy that freedom.
Good luck. 😘
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