When I write a post I am trying to talk directly to you, very seldom I use general language of "we".
I see you suffer my friend, you're lost in all lies around you. I see you floating in your life, suspended between contradictory desires.
Destiny is not the future, it is what you think right now!
Destiny is believed to be something that will necessarily happen in the future. It is taken to be some the hidden power which control what will happen, somebody calls it... fate.
The change of a person, or not, simply happens, or not, person is glued to the destiny.
Destiny is nothing else but your thinking habits. What you think is what you feel and what you feel is what you see.
I'm not quite sure how much you are responsible for yourself. I’m not talking about your responsibilities as a parent, employee, or a friend. These are the circumstances you have found yourself in, I am talking about the responsibility you have for your well being.
You can act being a good parent, good partner, good employee, and at the same time be very cruel towards yourself. First and foremost, you need to look after yourself. You are not responsible for other people.
Have you ever wondered what "yourself" really is?
Whatever thing you are looking at, you can not be that ? Do you agree with that?
If so, let me ask you... you can observe thoughts which appears to be somewhere in your head, so you can look at it and that means you are separate from thoughts, you are not what you think.
You can observe your feelings but in different way. With feelings is little bit tricky because the feelings carries energy and that energy takes your attention fully so you identify with the feeling. But try, just for a second, separate your attention from your feelings, you can see that you are not these every moment changeful feelings.
You can observe yourself being happy or being sad, in the midst of anger you can observe your rage, so definitely you are not emotions. But these are just words, you have to see it for yourself.
There is a psychological training and I recommend it for everyone who is interested in spirituality and self-realization, it is called Self-Observation.
Self-Observation is a simple practice, you divide your attention and you create a passive observer of whatever you do during a day. You observe it. You do not try to change what you see, you just observe what you think is "yourself".
Very soon after you start practicing Self-Observation you will notice the contradictions, lies, self-calming talk, self-pity attitude and many other things... You will be shocked how much your thoughts are lying to you and you will realize what is your real position.
So... you are not your thoughts, you are not your feelings and emotions... and you can see your physical body so you are not the body. Well now, I am asking you - who are you?
Without thoughts, feelings and body sensations, you still have sense of "I", you are something, that's for sure, but who or what are you?
