Saturday, June 23, 2018

Press On ~💖~ Losing 5 kg (11 lbs) in a month

... Summer has arrived! 

I'd like to begin this post by telling you I am not a successful person. I'm not an advanced yoga practitioner, a fitness teacher, or a healthy diet guru, not even a great blog writer. I write here what I'm interested about at present moment. I have no advice for you, so feel free to disregard my posts. Do whatever you want to do but know, unlike some of ignorant people, I'm not totally out of touch with conscious living.

What you can not measure you can not control... I have the weight monitor application on my phone where I record the body weight. Even the app says that my current weight of 90.5 kg (192 lbs) is normal for my height that is not accurate. I have skinny arms and legs and all excess weight is the belly fat.

I'm someone who has no big aspirations, but in spite of my age I want to be healthy and look good. I want to lose 5 kg (11 lbs) in 30 days. Aiming to lose 5 kg within a month is a realistic goal; with the appropriate changes to my diet, new exercise plan and lifestyle changes, I will be able to accomplish it. Typically, losing more than 1.0 kg per week isn't recommended. Quick weight loss isn't safe. Giving myself a month to lose weight is a great challenge.

The majority of the people of my age are overweight, busy with their work, under all kinds of stress, very serious and sarcastic. They follow sports and politics, they watch TV and news at 11 PM... The confidence goes down after hitting 50 and by age of 60 they will be people who are obese and more likely to have heart disease, strokes, diabetes, cancer, and depression. I have decided not to count myself in this general population of men. Except the age, I have nothing in common with them.

I hate to say this but the more I look around me the more ashamed I am part of my generation. I'm not buying it. Those, barbecue parties, kids education stories, big houses, big cars, big stomachs, management position and overtime work. Simple, I'm not buying their frustrations and their lifestyle.

What to say about the women of my age? Not much. The same sad fat story. I think women over 45 need a special diet plan. Women need fewer calories and large amounts of vitamins and minerals than men. The hormonal changes and menopause make them mentally unstable. They are into too much of sex or they have no sex at all, but let's not go there.

In the war on belly fat I'm doing a lot of investigation on the net and everyday I find something new. So I've started to know my enemy. Briefly, when you eat the food then a small amount of insulin is released into bloodstream. You feel satisfied and full. But too much of insulin converts the food into fat.

This is all I need to know. There is food who produce large amount of insulin in the blood stream and there is the processed food that cannot be disintegrated naturally so it stored itself in body in the form of belly fat.

These five foods making me fat. I must stop eating them!!

#1 Processed (Refined) Sugar

If I want to lose belly fat the processed sugar is my worst enemy. Eating refined sugar forces body to store fat. Stop eating it! White sugar, brown sugar, corn syrup, artificial sweeteners which don’t contain any calories, but they still causing large dump of insulin in our bloodstream which will make us fat.

#2 White Flour

White bread, crackers, pasta, and cereals. Don’t touch the white flour products unless you want to get fat. White flour digests to sugar just as fast as table sugar and produces a similar insulin response.

#3 White Potatoes

Is the potato white on the inside? Don't eat it. Potatoes have an ultra high glycemic index meaning they digest to sugar very quickly and cause an insulin spike.

#4 Anything Deep Fried

Most deep fried foods are breaded with white flour, or they are potatoes (french fries). White flour and potatoes are turning our body into a fat storing machine. If that weren't bad enough, the food is also dripping in high calorie saturated fats.

#5 White Rice

Just like white bread, white rice is another refined grain that digests to sugar very quickly. Eat too much, and you will get fat.

So that's why we have a belly fat...

Maybe you know these foods are bad for you, but they taste so good, and it's hard to stop eating them. It's time to change; I need motivation and the change of my habits. The war has started. There are many ineffective advice about how to lose belly fat. While there's no "magic bullet" that will target abdominal fat in particular, this post is my starting point of inquiry into this theme.

1. Eat breakfast

It might seem counterproductive to eat if you're trying to lose weight, but studies show that eating breakfast within an hour of waking up keeps insulin and cholesterol levels lower. Eat protein and high-fiber foods (eggs, peanut butter, fresh fruit, and vegetables) for breakfast. Avoid making sugary cereals, waffles, pancakes, French toast, breakfast pastries, or instant oatmeal.

2. Get enough sleep

Enough sleep. Most adults need at least 7 hours of sleep every night to function properly. Set aside time to relax. Even if it's only 15 minutes on your lunch break, find time to simply close your eyes, breathe deeply, and forget your worries.

3. Daily walking

If you have a sitting job, consider getting a regular walking exercise. Aim to take 5 km a day.

4. Drink plenty of water

Studies suggest that consistently drinking water throughout the day can lead to a more active metabolism, regardless of dieting. Drinking more water also helps your body flush out waste/toxins and improves your overall health. Aim to drink 2 l water a day.

5. Regular physical exercise

Ashtanga yoga is an excellent practice for lowering your belly fat. Regular 6 days a week practice is the best thing in the war against belly fat. :-)

6. Add resistance training (Gym)

Nutrition and Exercise Metabolism suggests that combining cardiovascular (aerobic) exercise with resistance training is more effective than cardiovascular training alone in getting rid of abdominal fat. You can do resistance training with free weights, exercise machines.

7. Eat less

Reduce calorie consumption. Most people tend to underestimate how much they eat. Get an honest assessment of your eating habits by writing down everything you consume for a week.  Eat avocados, nuts, seeds, soybeans, and chocolate — they prevent the accumulation of belly fat. However trans fats (in margarines, crackers, cookies, or anything made with partially hydrogenated oils) seem to result in more fat being deposited in the abdomen. Avoid these as much as possible.

8. Stay motivated 

Review this post every day. Losing belly fat doesn't have to be solely a cosmetic goal; understanding the health issues linked with belly fat can help motivate you. Belly fat is linked with cardiovascular disease, diabetes, and cancer. Specifically it's the deepest layer of belly fat — the fat you can't see or grab — that poses health risks.

The Goal

Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful men with talent. Genius will not; unrewarded genius is almost a proverb.  Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts.
Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan Press On! has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race. - Calvin Coolidge

Thursday, June 21, 2018

Three Pillars of Misery

Are you miserable because of your circumstances, or are your circumstances miserable because of you?

The truth is I have nothing to do. I have no ambition, nowhere to go, no one to be or become. I don't need to distract myself from anything or convince myself of anything. There is nothing that I think isn't as it should be, and I have no interest in how you see me. I have nothing to guide me except my own comfort or discomfort. I don't seem to be too bored or unhappy about it.

When you think of happiness, you often mean the experience of wonderful emotions like joy or delight. You may consider a relief to be happiness too. Or well-being, or the experience of contentment combined with a sense that your life is good, meaningful, and worthwhile...

Delusions Mr. Anderson! Temporary construct of human intellect desperately trying to make sense of his meaningless existence.

Joy, delight, relief, well-being, contentment are the building blocks of you as an individual but you don't recognize it. Your very search for these things makes you unhappy. As a consequence of the search your happiness is a temporary state of mind between two sorrows.

The search for happiness is the first pillar of misery.

You believe happiness is reliant upon the acquisition of something new or something different. You are constantly chasing, but never attaining. Often times, you search for it in all the wrong places...

Of course, my primary goal in writing this is to help myself cultivate happiness in my life!  If I just for a second forget problems and pay attention to writing these words I am, just for a moment, a little bit happier then before. And if I laugh while I'm writing my posts, that is even better.

I experience delight when I create new post and watch visitor stats increase. Yes, my writing is a source of inspiration, joy, gratitude, and hope. Sometimes I write a new post with great expectation that my readers, my colleagues, family, and friends will like it. And then I get disappointed because my post hit hard bottom in click-number.

The second pillar of misery is expectation. 

I became aware that my writing and thinking skills, and my creativity, sarcasm, and humor are not what I think to be. I need to keep in perspective everything. Well, everything, but particularly the bad things, the frustrating things, and the irritating things. They will protect me from expectations.

What I expect significantly influences how I'll perceive circumstances. The things are as they are, emotionally neutral if I don’t explicitly set out expectations.

Take a moment to consider your own view of happiness.

Is happiness more of a fleeting emotion or permanent state of your being?  At the end of the day, you deserve a life full of positive well-being, goodness, meaning, and worth. That’s what happiness is all about. But if you look at others and compare yourself to them you'll never find satisfaction.

Looking into others and comparing yourself to them is the third pillar of misery. 

You are conditioned to mirror yourself against other people, to seek happiness in relationships. Realize that people are not things to fulfill your void. Their job is not to make you happy – they are probably struggling with the same problems just as hard as you.

You look at others thinking they are enjoying their lives and at the same time achieving something. You're not jealous, but sometimes you just feel sorry about yourself that you work really hard but without much difference. Stop all of that. Comparing yourself to other people will only add to your misery.

Tuesday, June 19, 2018

Life is not a love story, but it is a story about love

Life is not a love story. But it is a story about love, and the power it has over us. The power to heal or destroy. And this is where the story begins...

The Soccer World Cup is going on, people are excited but from 32 nations competing there only one nation will celebrate on the end. All others, eventually, at one point of time, will be disappointed, sad and displeased because their guys have failed to fulfill theirs hopes and expectations.

And this is what life is all about - hopes and expectations and on the end, disappointment. You spend a great deal of effort maintaining the illusion of your life. You work very hard to make it as solid as possible and never venture too close to the meaning of it. Otherwise you would see right through it and find yourself looking into a mirage. Then you may see your life for what it really is... the great lie.

You work very hard to maintain your hopes and expectations. You take it so seriously, you get counseling, take some medications, go to the movie, drink wine and talk about soccer and other high things or you may go to shopping spree...

In an insane world, being "normal self" means you have to be insane. 

There are so many contradiction in this world, just like this world cup, that it’s easy to be caught up by one. And why are you doing all this, why are you following the crowd? Yup, to avoid those waves of sadness, emptiness, meaninglessness, alienation and anxiety.

You may awake, for a brief moment, from this daily life's slumber and look around and wonder what you’re doing here. You may suddenly stop feeling connection to anything. You may see that nothing can give you any pleasure, there is nothing to strive for, nothing you can get or experience to fix it.

Unfortunately, the pointlessness of your basic existence is so obvious.

When that happens, the world can become a really confusing place. So where is the problem? Why this depression?

Your problems come from your idea that the world is true. 

You assume that if the world is true then you are also true. This self-importance is the main reason for the feelings of depression, sadness, emptiness and anxiety.

There is nothing true in this world.

I am not a Buddhist but the impermanence is only permanent "thing" here. The meaning of everything is the meaning you give it. You are who you say you are, and your experience is what you say it is. Words. Growing, moving, progressing, evolving. Heart, Love, Peace, Bliss. Be nice and say you're sorry when you done wrong so your loving God won't cook your ass. You may hope for millions of dollars, large house, wonderful car, beautiful suit, or perfect partner, romantic love or transcendental bliss, cosmic consciousness, kundalini awakening... whatever.

Take it easy!

Slowdown and stop running after all these nonsense! Embrace nothingness and enjoy your own meaninglessness. One day you will be forced to stop, the sun will go off and the mirage will go off. Don't say that you were unlucky, you did not reached the water... well, the water was never there.

In the mean time, until you realize this, try to enjoy the performance.

No, life is not a love story. But it is a story about love. About those who give in to it, and the price they pay. And this is where the story ends.

Monday, June 18, 2018

Vacation is over... back to reality

My vacation started on June 1st ends today. Tomorrow I'm going to the office. However much fun I was having at the beach and pool of Barcelo resort I must return to normal day-to-day annoyances.

There is a fair amount of research showing that shortly after return from a vacation, the happiness level is lower than it was beforehand.

I don't like the happiness research and consumer psychology but it is true, the vacation excitement is inevitably going to dissipate. It doesn't mean I should despair now. Life goes on, new adventure awaits me.

I liked my vacation and maybe I will go back next year too. The resort is beautiful, so many activities, food is excellent and I really recommend everyone to visit Barcelo resort at Mayan Riviera. I was with my friend and his son, mostly on the pool and at night going out for drinks. I was not alone but I tried to have a quiet time for myself.

Did I solve any of questions I put in front of me before vacation? The hell no. I have resolved nothing, I have left everything as it is and I've given it to the Universe to deal with it. 😜

My main concern is to do daily yoga practice, be physically and mentally strong and happy, and of course, cut my belly fat, drink less, smoke less and look good. 

Yesterday, I woke up at 4:30 a.m. had coffee and quickly packed the last things, closed suitcase and had breakfast before bus picked us up at 6:25 a.m.. The travel was okay, everything was on time and we came to Toronto 30 minutes earlier of schedule. I was at home by 4:30 p.m.

My girlfriend was waiting me in my apartment when I came. I was so glad to see her, I missed her a lot. Our 2 years dating anniversary is next month and I bought her a wonderful present in Mexico, sapphire and diamonds gold ring. I like the ring so much, it reminds me of her.

I have concluded that she is really what I want and what I need in my life. I do not want to get married and I think it is still early for me to start living with a girlfriend. Our relationship maybe is not one of the best out there but I love her for what she is. 

I am completely okay seeing her once or twice per week. We talk on the phone often. She is my best buddy and I hope I am a best friend to her. How long this will last I don't know but who really cares. I enjoy having her in my life.

This morning I had 12th yoga practice in June. It was sweaty, 50 minutes long practice. I am strong and flexible and I enjoyed the practice. My plan is to do 6 practices this week. 

After practice, I showered and went outside for a breakfast at Tim's. I also had haircut this morning. And although I didn't shave since Mexico, I look rested.

Today in Toronto is 32 C and it is really hot. I went to High Park for a walk but I did not enjoy it. It was so humid and rain started so I returned home around noon.

Tonight is beer night with my friends. I will go to meet them and tell them the Mexican stories. World soccer cup is going on and I am trying to follow it, the games started to get interesting... etc. etc. so here I am, the vacation is over and I am back to reality.

Thursday, June 14, 2018

Being cool vs being needy!

Neediness  - a generalized, undifferentiated dependence on others and feelings of helplessness and fears of desertion and abandonment.

Yesterday my girlfriend told me that all man in relationships are needy. I do not know how that come up on the surface of our conversation but I did not like her remark.

I have my own theory about what sort of a man is attractive to women. And no, they are not those guys who have an over estimated picture of themselves based on nothing more but their own imagination.

Usually it happens the men are thinking they are cool by standing out of the rest of the crowd by beeing unique, selfish and full of bad manners.

I don’t mean cool in a “we drink beer together and have a laugh” sort of a way, nor cool in a "wearing sun glasses at night time”. I mean being cool by portraying lack of emotions.

Behind the screen of such "coolness" they are actually deeply afraid of women, usually incapable of falling in love and definitely incapable of being honest and have a long term relationship. Such men are afraid of beeing "needy" and they will never ever say what they think. In fact they will do everything in the hope of being liked.

When they fall in love, it’s because they are just desperate for affection and ready to convince themselves they are in love by clinging to false coolness and the lack of emotions.

If I look myself and my sensitivity and my cry for emotional support, I do not see anything wrong with that and there is nothing for me to fix. It is just indication that something is wrong in relationship itself.

I am only as needy as my needs aren’t being met.
I have emotional needs, and that they are needs, not wants. If I love I do need to be loved back.

I do not want to be in relationship with someone who plays chic-flick games and is hesitant about showing me emotions. So my response was straightforward...

The truth is: having different emotional needs is not wrong—not having emotional needs met is.