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You want to believe that the person of your dreams, the job opportunity of a lifetime, the lottery win or the surprise that you never expected is waiting around the corner for you. When you’re unhappy with where you are, you irrationally hope that a drastic change in your life will come along and save you from your sad life.

But the truth of the matter is, life doesn’t work that way. Nobody’s heading your way on a white horse and if you want to see the change in your life, you have to create it by your action.

This is what I know. When times get tough, I rely on myself, without looking for the rescue because I know that people are always going to be more aware of their own needs than they are of mine.

Unfortunately, other people around you are there stretching your limits, and they will nonetheless push you unless and until they encounter resistance. Most people are going to take as much from you as you let them get away with – which means it’s up to you to define when to say 'Yes' and when to say 'No'.

I have learned and I'm not afraid to say 'No,' to what I don’t want to do – because I know that nobody’s going to make me happy if I'm not satisfied with myself in my own eyes.

If you listen to what people want from you, you'll end up living a lifeless, shapeless, emotionless life. And then someone would come along and tell you that you have to be the more interesting person.

The truth is, it’s impossible to please everybody. There will always be someone who’s offended or bored by your words. You’re going to be criticized no matter what you do, so you might as well do what you want. Because if there’s anyone whose judgment you should listen to, it’s your own.

You may be the coolest, kindest, smartest, most interesting person in the world, but if you don't see that by yourself and actually put those traits into action, you have nothing to complain about.

You can spend your entire life feeling sorry for yourself because you deserve more than you’re getting, or you can go out into the world and actually claim what’s yours. Guess which choice is better?

You can spend your entire life loudly asking others to help you because you don’t have the time, money or energy to accomplish the things you actually want. And all of what you claim may be honest but the truth is, every single person has at least interest to help you in your life's struggle. They have the same problems as you.

Try to ignore your excuses. Find a way around your limitations, instead of just bitching about them.

You can sit indoors all day conceptualizing a better world, but until you get out there and start acting, you’re not actually making a difference. Good intention is a wonderful thing but unless it’s coupled with action, it counts for nothing.

At the end of the day, you are determined as a being by what you do, not by what you think about.

This is one more piece of advice I have for you: don't get impatient. Even if things are so tangled up you can't do anything, don't get desperate or blow a fuse and start yanking on one particular thread before it's ready to come undone. You have to realize it's going to be a long process and that you'll work on things slowly, one at a time.

- Haruki Murakami, Norwegian Wood

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O tiger’s heart wrapped in a woman’s hide! -William Shakespeare

It is Friday afternoon, I have come from the office and my work for this week is done. I will do yoga now,  shower and then lay down and have a nap. My girlfriend should come in the evening and we are going with my friends to a Japanese restaurant. I'm looking forward seeing her.

I am a friend with my girlfriend. I have not seen her in the last week and although we spoke on the phone every day, I am missing her a lot. That made me thinking... what are we? Am I in a long-distance relationship? Yes, we’re friends, but we’re certainly a bit different than average friends.

Sometimes it feels like we’re dating, but we’re not a common dating couple. In this world where everything is supposed to fit inside of a nice structured box, we don’t actually fit in the dating category so well. I have not met her friends and there is no intention from her side to change things. As a couple, we don’t really make sense.

It is so often assumed that a relationship worth something is going in a certain direction, growing and couple becomes more close to each other. But it feels like we are always at the beginning with no particular place to go.


No matter how genuine, kindhearted or caring she is, she's always going to be more aware of her own needs than she is of mine. I'm not her priority and I come as "nice-to-have" addition in her life. Her family, job, house, friends... her ex... her real estate agent, they come before me.

Friends, with and without benefits?... I have asked numerous times over the past year. Even without the traditional label of “couple”, I want to be with her ignoring and repressing things that bother me until they inevitably explode leaving a huge mess for us to clean up.

I'm ashamed of breaking up our relationship so many times. I break up just to find out that I love her more than I ever thought. She is an exceptional woman and I have strong feelings for her.

I have fallen in love. Maybe she feels this too. Maybe she doesn't. Maybe she feels it in a different way or simply not at all. I'm not so sure. The truth is, it’s impossible for her to accepts me totally and stop hiding me from her life.

She is a busy woman and I have nothing but time on my hand. I will continue on this path with no destination, I think it is worth taking. And I admit, I yearn for more than what we are now, more than what we have so far.


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To know what you are, you must first investigate and know what you are not. Discover all that you are not - body, feelings thoughts, time, space, this or that - nothing, concrete or abstract, which you perceive can be you. The very act of perceiving shows that you are not what you perceive.

The clearer you understand on the level of mind you can be described in negative terms only, the quicker will you come to the end of your search and realize that you are the limitless being.

- Nisargadatta Maharaj

Life is a tale told by an idiot, full of sound and fury, signifying nothing - is the famous saying of William Shakespeare. Nice, I like it. They also say that Shakespeare said - Don't believe everything you read on the internet... but this is just a stretch, or maybe not.

Seriously, the life is indeed a story. We are now living what our ancestors were talking about. And the ones who come after us will live what we are talking about. That how it goes. We set the intention not only for ourselves but for future generations as well.

The intention is the starting point of life. It is the creative power that makes your life, it fulfills all of your needs, whether for love, relationships, spiritual awakening, or money.

Whether Shakespeare realized this or not, it is beside the point. A new beginning and a fresh start are happening first in thoughts, then words and finally in action. Possibilities are here and if you set the firm intention on something the universe has to deliver it. It has no choice. That how it works.

Have you heard of The Law of Attraction?

All chances are that you have watched "The Secret" and then wondered where the hell is your stuff, why the Universe gives you so little?

The Universe and everything in it, including yourself, is mostly “empty space”. However, they say that space is not actually “empty”, it’s filled with quantum fields and dark energy (whatever that is). In simple words, even though the universe and everything in it are mostly empty, true empty space (a perfect vacuum) doesn't actually exist...

Investigate for yourself or take it for granted, the universe is your creation. You are the universe. The universe is your reality and it is full to the brim with your desires. It is your world as you feel it and see it... But unfortunately, it does not have EXISTENCE. It is your imagination, the creative power of your intention.

Don't believe everything you read on the internet.

Don't believe in spiritual bullshit that you undertake some journey, live your life in a way uniquely suited to you and only you. Don't believe that you're equipped with unique gifts, talents, life mission and purposes. Don't believe that you draw unique experiences into your life in order to learn something. You don't gain any knowledge by extracting your understanding of life.

What is here to be understood? Everything is the illusion.

"I" is an illusion and all is the illusion but to understand illusion, the illusion is needed. All is only beliefs and concepts of the mind. Don't be touched by anything.

Don't fear. Nothing will happen. The world is not going to change because it does not exist. Your understanding should be changed nothing else. It all depends on your thoughts.

Everything is your choice, you are the power. The world is yours. Many, many troubles happen to you but don't worry about anything. So do everything but be out of it, nothing else. You take the touch of everything and you make confusion.

By words, you have become bound, and by words, you can be free.

- Ranjit Maharaj

To destroy the false, you must question your beliefs. 

Of these, the idea that you are the body with the consciousness is the worst. With the body comes the world, with the world - God, who is supposed to have created the world and thus it starts - fears, religions, bondage, spirituality, practice, sacrifices, all sorts of systems - all to protect and support "you", frightened out of your wits by monsters of your own making.

You fear of death so you imagine your uniqueness, mission, purpose, experience, and understanding.

I am not here to make things right for you. What I know for sure? Nothing. No man, teaching, religion, the system of thought, doctrine, ideology is correct. You are on your own. The spiritual knowledge is actually ignorance.... so sometimes sit and think and other times just sit.


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Have you ever woke up at 5 A.M. and had a coffee in a cold and dark, morning, on your balcony... thinking about your life. Those are moments when you finally sit down and see your life like it is, a hard pill to swallow.

Guess what? Life is hard for everyone. It’s not supposed to be easy. If you want a different life, go out and get it. No one is going to change it for you. On these early mornings, you can clearly see the brutal truths about your life that during a day you don't want to admit.

You’ll stop living some day.

You want to think you are immortal, but you aren’t. You behave like you're immortal, you have no notion of your own death. You always want more and better and you're striving to reach goals, objectives and you're saving for a retirement in order to start living. Stop wishing away your days and start enjoying what is going on right now.

Everyone around you is going to die.

Hug your mom and dad and tell your sister you love her. Hug your partner and tell her that you love her. Tell people that matter to you that they matter to you. Either you or they won’t be here someday. Look up from your smartphone, look them into eyes and tell them that you're grateful to them, grateful for having them in your life.

Money is not everything.

You put a price on things and people. You evaluate people of how much money they have. You feel poor even you are never hungry, naked or cold. No matter how hard you try, money will not buy you happiness. Stop accumulating, life is about living. And stop spending your money on crap.

You cannot make everyone happy.

Don’t worry about trying to make people happy. Be yourself until your time runs out. People will never be pleased with you. If you want to make a real difference in the world, leave people as they are. Don't avoid them, just be with them. Spending time with people impacts them in ways you cannot even imagine.

Don't be perfect.

Unless you are living in the here and now, you are wasting your life. Stop accusing yourself, having a guilt of what you have done or regrets what you have not done. Stop chasing tomorrow and start enjoying today. Standing in front of the mirror pointing out your flaws will make you miserable. Don’t waste another second trying to be perfect, be what you are right now.

Trust yourself.

Pay attention to how you feel instead of trying to figure out your thoughts. No one is going to live this life for you. Trust your inner feelings, the gut, your intuition. You're realizing that all the stuff you're worried about doesn’t really matter. Hopefully, you’ll realize that you still have time to do the things you actually wanted to do. Hurry, you might not wake up tomorrow so don’t put off what you can do today until tomorrow. You might not get the chance.

You will never have enough time. Do the best you can with what you have. But if you want to really enjoy life, you need to get to collect yourself fast and cut the crap out of your life and realize your own bullshit so you can spend time on the things that matter to you.

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You Don't Own Me, My Love
Guest Post - Written by Ciara Hall

You cannot possess me.

You cannot tell me how to think or feel. You cannot dictate where my heart goes, or where my eyes wander off to.

I will not give you the book of my life and allow you to write in the blank pages for me. Those pages are mine, they were given to me to fill out in whatever way I see fit.

You may be featured as a character in my story, but you cannot control the story.

You shouldn’t. And I hope you don’t even want to.

Because, my dear love, I have spent so much time in a cage already. I sat there, alone, cold, confused, wondering why I couldn’t see the blue, blue sky that everyone outside the bars spoke so highly of.

I wanted that sky. I spent so long dreaming of the breeze that my feathers would find when I had the opportunity to stretch my wings. I just didn’t realize that I couldn’t fly while in that cage.

And, one day, I realized it.

I broke the cage.

And the one who placed me there—he was so mad. He told me that I was wrong for doing so, but I didn’t care. Because while he screamed, I was looking up, and I could see the sky for the first time ever. And it made me realize that I never, ever, ever want to be caged up again.

So please, I beg of you: don’t do that to me. Don’t even try. The moment I catch the briefest hint of iron bars, I will spread my wings and I will be gone—because that is in my nature, beloved.

I do not want to leave you. I do not want to be alone forever. But, more important than that, I cannot be caged.

I won’t allow it.

And you will whisper sweet words to me, try to tell me that you are mine and I am yours, but I am not yours. I will never be yours.

I am mine. I belong to me. I control my heart, my thoughts, my actions, my life. I will never surrender to you completely, so much as you may want me to.

“You are your best thing.” ~ Toni Morrison

I love you. I want to love you. I will love you.

But, I do not want to own you. I do not want you to be mine. Because you are yours, you are your best thing, and I am my best thing.

Together, we will be two great things existing alongside one another, supporting one another, making each other greater, and stronger, and beautiful. We will build an empire with our most marvelous power because, together, you and I can do it. I know we can.

All I ask is that you let this happen. You let me happen. Don’t stifle me or belittle me or try to make me less than what I am. Don’t try to put out my flame; I will only burn you.

And if you try to put out my flame, then believe me: I want to burn you.

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