Friday, January 19, 2018

7 Brutally Honest Truths

Guess what? These girls... NO, as you're now, you can't have them. I know the life is a bitch, it is hard for everyone. It’s not supposed to be easy. If you want a different life, go out and get it. No one is going to change it for you. Here are 7 brutally honest truths about life that you need to see and understand...

1. You’ll stop living some day.

You want to think you are immortal, but you aren’t. You behave like you're immortal, you have no notion of your own death. You always want more and better and you're striving to reach goals, objectives and you're saving for a retirement in order to start living.

Stop wishing away your days and start enjoying what is going on right now.

2. Everyone around you is going to die.

Hug your mom and dad and tell your sister you love her. Hug your partner and tell her that you miss her. Tell people that matter to you that they matter to you. Either you or they won’t be here someday.

Look up from your smartphone, look people close to you into their eyes and tell them that you're grateful to them, grateful for having them in your life.

3. Money is not everything.

You put a price on things and people. You evaluate people of how much money they have. You feel poor even you are never hungry, naked or cold.

No matter how hard you try, money will not buy you happiness. Stop accumulating, life is about living. And stop spending your money on useless crap.

4. You cannot make everyone happy.

Thank you for trying to make people happy. Whatever you do, people will never be pleased with you. If you want to make a real difference in the world, leave them as they are. Don't avoid them, just be with them. Spending time with people impacts them in ways you cannot even imagine.

5. Don't be perfect.

Unless you are living in the here and now, you are wasting your life. Stop accusing yourself, having a guilt of what you have done or regrets what you have not done. Stop chasing tomorrow and start enjoying today.

Standing in front of the mirror pointing out your flaws will make you miserable. Don’t waste another second trying to be perfect, be what you are right now.

6. Trust yourself.

Pay attention to how you feel instead of trying to figure out your thoughts. No one is going to live this life for you. Trust your inner feelings, the gut, your intuition.

All the stuff you're worried about doesn’t really matter. Hopefully, you’ll see that you still have time to do the things you actually wanted to do. Hurry, you might not wake up tomorrow so don’t put off what you can do today until tomorrow. You might not get the second chance.

You will never have enough time. Do the best you can with what you have. But if you want to really enjoy life, you need to get to collect yourself fast and cut the crap out of your life and realize your own bullshit so you can spend time on the things that matter to you.

7. Do whatever fuck you want.

Be your damn self. Don’t be a terrible person. Be nice to others. Be supportive of your friends...

But seriously, do whatever you want!

Do you want a glass of beer? Then just drink a beer. Do you want a piece of chocolate? Don’t be gross about it, and don’t eat a chocolate three meals a day. But I beg you stop beating yourself up about it and just eat.

Do. Whatever. The Fuck. You Want.

The life is your show. It is your universe.

Who else knows about your thoughts and feelings? There is no one else there, you are completely on your own. Everything is available to you. No one else can lead you, pull you, push you or carry you.

No one else is necessary for your success. Good luck.

Tuesday, January 16, 2018

Have you seen a miracle?

... life is a tale full of sound and fury, signifying nothing - is famous saying of William Shakespeare.  Shakespeare also said - don't believe everything you read on the internet... but that is just a stretch.

Seriously, the life is indeed a story. We are now living what our ancestors were talking about. And the ones who come after us will live what we're talking about. It is called Intent. That how it goes. We set the intention not only for ourselves but for future generations too.

Intention is the starting point of life. It is the creative power that makes your life, it fulfills all of your needs, whether for love, relationships, spiritual awakening, or money.

Have you watched Blade Runner 2049?

How did K discover Dr Anna, a dream maker, intent creator? It is a very good move. Daring in its own right, this broodingly sumptuous saga explores the primacy of feelings, the nature of memories and the essence of being human.

...And old Blade Runner, Deckard (Harrison Ford), a man with a faithful dog that may or may not be a replicant. “Is it real?” K asks. “I don’t know,” Deckard replies. “Ask him.” 
Whether Shakespeare realized this or not, it is beside the point. A new beginning and a fresh start are happening first in thoughts, then words and finally in action. Possibilities are here and if you set the firm intention on something the universe has to deliver it. It has no choice. That how it works.

The Universe and everything in it, including yourself, is mostly “empty space”. The space is not actually “empty”, it’s filled with quantum fields and dark energy (whatever that is). In simple words, even though the universe and everything in it are mostly empty, true empty space (a perfect vacuum) doesn't actually exist...

New Age spirituality teaching you that you create your own reality and that you are what are you believing. However, the saying that you create your own reality has been part of our culture for thousand of years now, from The Buddha to Oprah Winfrey...
If your relationships aren’t fulfilling, or if you’re struggling financially, or if care giving for an elderly parent makes you depressed, you need only make an attitude adjustment to deliver you from suffering to joy. If you simply practice positive thinking you’ll be rewarded with peace of mind.... However, not so fast! Things are not easy at all.

The main reason for your slavery is your belief that inner (thoughts) and outside (world) events are true!

These are the first words of truth - not truth in quotation marks but truth in the real meaning of the word; truth which is not merely theoretical, not simply a word, but truth that can be realized. The meaning behind these words must be understood.

Recognize that everything, including the sense of “I” is false. See that the world is but a show, glittering and empty. Realize that all is nothing. Check every desire and see where they're leading you. See that all objects including your relation to mother, father, children, friends etc. are untrue. Understand that all your relationships are ready to fool you. See your own meaninglessness.

When you see for yourself THAT,  you will collapse in fear and confusion and you will acquire the greatest virtue of this world... humility. Until that happens to you, spirituality and law of attraction is all theoretical, irrelevant.

Everyone wants to be somebody, and no one wants to be a nobody. You are frustrated in your quest for significance. Our present social system of elitism allows a select few to "succeed". For the majority, the life is just wanting. You remain driven by the desire to be somebody so humility is not practical! You can agree that humility is a nice quality in others, because you feel safe and comfortable around people who are humble. But when it comes to yourself, you may consider humility a hindrance to success and a recipe of failure.

There are different ways you may come to experience worthlessness of your human condition.

Think about the cosmos. Consider the vastness of the universe, that there are billions upon billions of galaxies with trillions upon trillions of stars and our sun is just one such star and our planet just a single small planet among trillions planets in our galaxy. You may become aware of how insignificant you are and may experience a sense of nothingness in relation to your own existence.

Or, think about the amazing numbers of people that have come before you and the number of people that will come into this world after you are gone, and when you see yourself for what you are, you may also experience your utter insignificance and nothingness.

Or, you may experience nothingness when you are confronted with death and become aware of your own mortality. This happens when somebody who is close to you dies. The death of a loved one confronts you with the reality of your situation -  that you too are on the path of annihilation, and this realization, together with your lack of understanding of any purpose in your existence, may lead you to the experience of nothingness.

The experience of nothingness you should be after is fundamentally different from the above three examples. It is through turning inward and focusing on your own individuality and experiencing its disappearance that you come to experience nothingness. The experience of nothingness is the experience of the death of your ego and the encounter with what-you-really-are. Such an experience is expressed as the highest form of humility.

You're afraid of nothingness, of nothing... With everything comes the world, with the world - God, who is supposed to have created the world and thus it starts - fears, religions, bondage, spirituality, practice, sacrifices, all sorts of systems - all to protect and support "you", frightened out of your wits by monsters of your own making.

You fear of your worthlessness so you imagine your uniqueness, mission, purpose, experience, and understanding. I am not here to make things right for you. You are on your own.

Life's but a walking shadow, a poor player,
That struts and frets his hour upon the stage,
And then is heard no more. It is a tale,
Told by an idiot, full of sound and fury
Signifying nothing.

Monday, January 15, 2018

Geez, women after 40 are really arrogant creatures

It was Valentine Day two years ago... I was thrilled to see a middle-aged, overweight and overworked man and his 40-something, chubby, exhausted wife and mother-of-two run to the opening night of Fifty Shades. This showed me, hope still exists...

I would like to know how many orgasms Fifty Shades of Grey books has inspired, and how much marital boredom was killed... I think, the impact of the books are incalculable, far beyond the bedroom.

It's all relative, of course, but the movies are infinitely better than the poorly written books they're based on, which were the best-sellers because of the naughty bits, rather than the story. In nutshell, a young attractive woman is pursued by a young attractive man. But for all his money, good looks, kinky toys and a helicopter, he's just a scared little boy who can't open up or have a healthy relationship...

I liked it, it is just a fantasy and the fantasy doesn't follow the rules of real life. I recommended the books and movies to housewives, it will turned them on. After watching the movies, men will take sex more seriously... And yet, some people will find themselves offended by these movies.

It's now very common to hear people say, "I'm rather offended by that." As if that gives them certain status, it's actually nothing more then a whine. They will find the raw, dirty talk in bedroom to be offensive. They'll be offended... Well, so fucking what!

Did you know that only 25% of women are able to reach orgasm during sexual intercourse? According to long-term studies, 50% of women have the orgasm once in a month, 20% once in a year, and 5% never have orgasms.

Can you imagine? 3 of 4 women can’t feel complete sexual pleasure because their clitoris and vagina (read mind) have become numb and there is at least 1 of 4 who has never experienced an orgasm – even after decades of having sex.

No wonder that so many women over 40 have lost their desire for sex, have been emotionally abused and are fearful, or think that there is something wrong with them because they don’t feel the pleasure that they hear other women talk about.

The problem of orgasm is just a tip of the iceberg of modern living. The real 50 shades of gray is the gray area between asexual and sexual. More than 50% of the general population do not normally experience sexual attraction. Gray-sexual, demisexual, semi-sexual, asexual and sexual-ish... The beauty of the internet is that there are a lot of sites out there that explain these terms. And yet, I blame the orgasm problem to the fact that you take the life way too seriously.

Women are not the same and there are exceptions, but according to my own observation, nearly 70% of women of age 40 and up suffer from lost of sexual desire. The sex drive usually decline after the birth of the child, somewhere in late 30ties.

"I just became less and less interested in sex," says 42 years old Lisa mother of two. "Eventually, it wasn't on the agenda at all. Not that I wasn't interested in the idea - but it just didn't do anything for me. My answer was to throw myself wholeheartedly into my business and everything else, so I wouldn't think about the problem."

When a woman loses interest in sex, the impact on relationship can be disastrous.

"There is no question that this is causing depression and a whole host of headaches, pains and other apparently unconnected physical problems," says Mike Perring, a GP and sexual psychotherapist. "Good sex is part of general well-being for most people."

To simplify things, most of the women over 40 have stopped liking sex. Back in my dating days I had conversation on with a nice looking 40-something lady...

Why she lost her desire for sex is a mystery. The sexual intercourse, sexual desire and in the end the satisfaction... sexual thoughts, erotic fantasies, and daydreams are disgusting, like animals.

Guy gets her flowers, girl gives him head! As a teenage girl said...  "I'm sorry, but I'm really sick of this stupid stereotype. Don't get me wrong, I love pleasing my man with some BJ, but I don't fucking want flowers."

Women after 40, do want flowers.

Sunday, January 14, 2018

From the desk of Zee Mark

It is Sunday afternoon, the middle of January; a gray, cold day in Toronto, 4:30 PM, I'm doing laundry. The third machine is set and it's working; I changed the bed sheets, the bedroom smells so nice. I'm a happy man, my girlfriend spent weekend with me and we had a great time. Just for the record, we went to sleep at 4:30 AM on Saturday morning and 2:30 AM this morning. I know... we are crazy. She is my best friend, my darling, and my sweetheart... she is my love.

Yoga practice is priority for next week. I would like to do 5 practices. I have no other plans. I may go for beer night on Monday and meet my friends. A long time I haven't see some of them. I'm planning to make a party at my place in two weeks, I will cook beans and call my friends for a dinner. Will see.

I put money spending under control. Since January 1st, I use my app for tracking expenses and it is really helpful. I don't use credit cards anymore. Everything I buy I pay by cash. I've seen that I can live with $200 per week, and I will stay in that range for the next 2-3 months. Last week, I called my mortgage broker and I initiated early renewal for my mortgage and I'll use re-financing to pay out my debt which stays now at 11K.

Don't get me wrong. I am not the one of those people who live the life for saving and stashing money for retirement. I'm not concerned for retirement. I try to live in the moment. However I don't like to owe money, I feel very uncomfortable with debt. So I'm going to re-finance my mortgage, I know it is a bad thing to do but I have no other option to pay off debt. My bonus payment will come at the end of April and that amount is not so large to cover the entire debt. So I will proceed with the mortgage re-financing.

Next week I will continue to study and learn the advanced topics of android programming. I'll do that at home at my spare time. At work things are heating up and I will be very busy next week. I would like to start next android project but at present I have no clue what to make. The Cash app is missing help and I have to add that feature to the app. BTW, there are no new sales of the app, I'm now aware there will not be more than 10 downloads of the app. It doesn't matter, I enjoyed making it.

In the last 20 years every summer I went and visited my parents back home. This year, for the first time, I will not go. I have no plans to visit my father and relatives and spend a large amount of money for the trip. It is okay, I will send to my father and sister half of what would cost me so they will be satisfied and I will be good too. For this year I have plans to go to Barcelona with my girlfriend. Seven day would be nice, sometime in June or July. But that trip should be completely paid off in advance, I have no intention of borrowing money and going into debt because of the trip.

There is nothing else worth noticing in my life. And I don't really want surprises. I'll keep 9 PM bed time, continue reading Reality Vs. Illusion by Ranjit Maharaj, continuing monitoring and saving money and I'll try to do 5 yoga practices by next Saturday. The dryer just clicked and the third machine is done. I'm going to take out my clothes... later, I'm going for a walk to Bloor street I want a coffee at Starbucks. It is -15 C and it feels much colder but that doesn't really matter.