My mother died in the palliative care in January 2015. I was with her a month earlier and I spend considerable time in that hospital department. The palliative care is the last place, it is the place for dying.
Recently, I read an article about the last words of the patients on the palliative care. Top five regrets of the dying. Those patients in their last days has revealed the most common regrets they have at the end of their lives.
I wish I'd had the courage to live a life true to myself, not the life others expected of me – dying patients
When you realize that your life is almost over and look back clearly on it you will understand that all was up to you and your courage to live life true to yourself, not the life others expected of you. In other words you will see that your dreams have gone unfulfilled. You'll realize that you've wasted your life.
First of all, almost everyone of you is convinced that you're having a terrible life, and that most of the time you're making a fool of yourself. That's true but despite your feelings, your life is actually above average; you live quite good life.
Secondly, there is no need to improve anything in your life. Emotionally, this is like a blow to the stomach for you. But think for yourself and figure out what is true. The life is your show. It is your universe.
Who else knows about your thoughts and feelings? There is no one else there, just you, and nothing is being withheld from you. You are completely on your own.
There is no place for worries. Everything is available to you. No one else has anything you need. No one else can lead you, pull you, push you or carry you. No one else is necessary to your success. You keep fucking yourself over. If you understand that, you will understand that it is the best news you could possibly receive.
I wish I hadn't worked so hard – dying patients
On the dead-bed every male have regret about the work. They wished that they hadn't work so hard. They had spend so much of their life on the treadmill of making money. And for what? A big car or a house?
Your mind willfully accepts every information from newspapers without doubting anything. You feel that work is most important thing in your life, you don't think about the universe and your place in it, you imagine you are true and therefore you naturally feel self important. Fucking egocentric-maniac Steve Jobs is your idol.
You've never given any thought to who you really are because your mind is ever busy solving work problems and counting money.
Move your attention from the profit or loss tendencies. Turn the attention of your mind to yourself. How do you know you exist? What is "being alive"? If you don’t do this then you will continue to work like a dog until you die.
No wonder, your life is so boring like a lazy Sunday afternoon.
Change your attitude! Realize that your work is necessary only for your daily needs and nothing else. Question your "needs".
I wish that I had let myself be happier – dying patients
Few people realize that happiness is a choice. The dreaming life is lived according to patterns and habits. It is only followed comfort of familiarity. Deep within, everyone long to laugh more and have more craziness in their life.
Happiness is momentary sensations of forgetfulness of problems, which of course do not disappear but that forgetfulness gives the sense of being happy.
You move from one pattern to another, from one cage to another, from one pose to another, hoping to find happiness, not only happiness in relationship with people, but also the happiness as a resting place where your mind will never be disturbed, where you cease to be tortured by your thoughts.
I may put this in different words, I may use different jargon, but that is what you want - a place where your mind can rest, where it is not tortured by its own activities, where there is no sorrow, but that's your imagination, just another thought.
Well...
May you find your happiness!!!
Find what gives your life meaning and what gives you a sense of purpose. Find out what you want. Start from that.. ask yourself What do you want? and happiness will follow; remember the very search for happiness is itself the main reason for unhappiness.
Good luck. 😘
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